am i being selfish?

[sharonF]

Sandy, have a brilliant time, and it will work out fine with your friends, just agree to all do as you wish, like phil says there are 3 of them, so they can sort themselves out.

Sue, you dont sound selfish, I would love to bring mum and dad to arillas, but they are both too disabled or think they are.  Your dad sounds great, you could leave him to do his own thing and you do yours.  Like BG says as well, cherish the memories it will bring.  ARillas isnt going anywhere.

Sharon x

[georgia]

Hi Sue, you are not being selfish. I can totally empathise. When you have an aged parent so much of your time is concentrated on giving them support, if not practical than enotional support which is often the most draining..and you nees your breaks to recharge your batteries and go back to doing it all with good heart again. This was just my experience, yours may be different. Has your dad not got a friend who could also visit lovely Arillas with him, just a suggestion could make it easier? Georgia